Do you see people you love around you and wish so badly you can do something to get them to change their lives?
To see those I care about screwing up their lives in some way, or even just not fulfilling their potential, has been a never-ending source of frustration for me.
Sometimes I just want to grab people and shake them saying, “Wake up! Don’t you see what you’re doing! Don’t you see how you can do so much better! Ugh!!”
Try this a few times though… and you’ll probably find it’s not a very effective strategy.
While you can’t force people to change, there is one particular thing you can do to inspire others to want to willingly change themselves.
It was through learning one thing in particular that I was able to actually see real transformations in the lives of those around me. What I learned was the power of influence.
Influence – Manipulation Or Service?
When I talk about influencing others, it may sound like a form of mind control or manipulation. Keep in mind the word “manipulation” can have a neutral meaning – like manipulating the orientation of my phone in my hand.
For the sake of practicality, I’ll simply say that influence here will refer to “positive influence” which is the ability to persuade others and yourself to do what’s in their own best interest.
You see, many people DO want to change, but they don’t know how to motivate themselves to change. By learning how to influence them, which can simply be a matter of being a good role model, you can help them achieve THEIR goals.
This means learning influence not to get them to do what you want, but to get them to do what THEY want for themselves, but have been unable to do.
Inspiring Others To Change Means Changing Yourself
Skills of influence are first honed in on yourself. You can’t help others get their act together if your life is all jacked up.
This starts with educating yourself, and then implementing what you learn immediately in your own life.
I’ve had a handful of trainers that taught me many skills of influence as I’ve gotten certified as a coach and NLP practionor. If there’s one person that jumps to the top of the list for the most powerful and effective trainers of the skills of influence, it would easily be Brandon Broadwater, which my journey started with in his three day event Master Your Power Within.
A Powerful Learning Strategy
There’s one way I’ve found that dramatically enhances my ability to learn the skills of influence and apply them to help inspire those I care about.
What I did was learn with the intention of ultimately teaching others. When you learn with the intent to share and teach, the learning goes deeper. You’re now actively participating in the learning process rather than just passively receiving information.
Plus I find that when I know I’m going to teach a lesson to others, I’m now held accountable to put that lesson into practice.
For instance, if I teach others the importance of doing a daily reflection, I’m going to make sure to do a daily reflection myself so I don’t feel like a hypocrite.
Changing Others Means You Must…
If there’s one thing I can give you to takeaway and put into practice besides developing the skills of influence, it would be this…
See the potential in others they don’t see in themselves. See them as they could be, not as they are.
When you can genuinely see the greatness within another, you’ll be inspired to draw it out of them.
You’ll develop a relentless striving to study everything you can about how to uplift and change the lives of others.
This article is just a starting point. Are you committed to unleashing the greatness in others and in yourself? Message me if you’d like recommendations for how to start your journey. I have some powerful books, seminars, and resources I can recommend. firstname.lastname@example.org
Now go and inspire others to unleash their greatness!