Does it ever feel like there’s some sort of unseen force keeping you from achieving success?
Perhaps it feels like you keep spinning your wheels and going nowhere. Or maybe you can’t even get yourself started with something and don’t know why.
I’ve felt both of these things many times and continue to feel them. In the book “The War Of Art,” Steven Pressfield talks about a force called “resistance.” I think this word sums up quite nicely what a lot of us feel whenever we’re trying to create a business, write a book, or just better our lives in anyway.
Why in the world would we feel resistance to doing something that would improve our lives or when we’re about to do something we would even enjoy?
For instance, sometimes I’m about to help someone and a little voice says “You don’t want to do that!. Don’t waste your time. No one wants to hear this.”
Do you have a voice like that?
Chances are you do because WE ALL do!
It’s the voice of our inner (and sometimes an outer) resistance coming up trying to keep us where we’re at.
The first way to overcome this resistance is to be aware of it. Realize that voice isn’t you!
For myself, whenever this comes up, it’s usually a sign that I’m about to do something very important. I even felt it before thinking about writing this email, so I made sure to go straight to my computer and write it before I could distract myself with something else.
The second way to overcome this resistance is to realize why it exists. It’s not something bad that we need to rid ourselves of. Rather, we should recognize it as a force that’s there to empower us.
Just like you can’t grow physically stronger without putting your muscles under resistance, you can’t build your character without pushing through internal resistance.
Virtues of character can only be developed when there is some opposite “dark” force to overcome.
A simple example would be courage. Courage isn’t action without fear, but action IN SPITE of fear. Courage actually requires fear to manifest itself.
And this goes for the other virtues. Even things like forgiveness and compassion can only be happen if wrongdoings take place.
The point is to recognize the resistance you feel for being what it is, to THANK it for serving you in its own way, and to let it be a force to help build your character and resolve.
In other words, you don’t fight against the resistance (resisting the resistance) such as trying to eliminate fear all together. Rather you fight FOR what the resistance is trying to help you develop, such as courage in spite of fear.
If you feel like you could use some help in overcoming your resistance, then reply to this email and we can set up a mentoring session.