There is one common characteristic among the world’s most successful people (whether in business, relationships, fitness, etc) that I rarely hear anyone talk about.
Fortunately, one of my mentors shared this secret with me and it has often kept me from one of the biggest traps I see people fall into where they go from self-help book to self-help book (or seminar) and constantly look for answers only to spin their wheels and go nowhere.
It could be said that a characteristic of success is “constant learning,” but that’s a little too simplistic. Instead, it’s about HOW people learn that makes or breaks their results.
Being an author and coach myself, one piece of feedback I occasionally get from people either about my own work or another person’s is that “it isn’t anything new.”
And my response would be something like “do you want to learn something new that doesn’t work, or learn what’s age old and has worked for thousands of years?”
To me, I’d rather go with the time tested and proven approach any day. After all, there’s really nothing new under the sun. Most things written in a self-help book in the last 50 years can probably be found in spiritual and philosophical book dating back thousands of years.
Now I’m not just trying to defend my place in the world as an author and coach. Rather, I want to make it clear that no one else teaches you anything. Instead, YOU teach yourself.
All a mentor, coach, author, friend, or other individual can do is show you a different perspective which you can either adopt or reject.
It’s not only in seeing something new that you learn, but also in seeing something old in a new way.
In order to do this, you must adopt something called “beginner’s eyes” where you imagine you’re coming across this information for the first time.
Many of the world’s most successful people re-read the same books over and over again. Obviously they’re not getting new information, but they’re still learning because each time they read, they’re coming from a different place internally.
Most of us already kind of know what to do, but we don’t apply it for a number of reasons. So instead of focusing on the basics we know, we turn to distraction in the form of novelty.
That novelty could be TV and Facebook OR it could be seeking out “shiny new objects” in the form of books and trainings where we want something new and different instead of doing what we already know works. This is referred to as being a self-help junkie. I’m speaking from a LOT of personal experience here. 🙂
Recently I was feeling really down and depressed and couldn’t quite get to the source of it. Now as the author of “Why You’re Stuck” you might think I’m immune to this, but far from it. I’m still human, but fortunately I often know how to dig myself out of these states.
To make a long story short, I ended up spending some time focusing on forgiveness towards someone I didn’t even consciously realize I was holding ill feelings towards. After that, things started to get a lot better.
Practicing forgiveness isn’t anything “new,” and I make it a big focus in my book. Yet, I went for weeks suffering needlessly because I was overlooking such an obvious thing because I lacked the AWARENESS of what my issue was.
The answers are often simple, it’s finding them within ourselves that’s the real challenge.
As you go through your week, start to observe all the information you take in both from EXTERNAL sources and INTERNAL sources (thoughts, feelings) as if you’re experiencing them for the first time. See them as fresh new information sent to you to raise your awareness as to what’s most important right now in your life.
I promise life will get a LOT more exciting – and breakthroughs will be guaranteed with enough time and practice.